THE dating game can be a minefield – not helped by apps which make it easy for people to move onto the next person at the swipe of a button.
But if you want to guarantee your is left swooning, you could try a few -backed methods to increase the chances of an instant attraction.
Simple tricks to make your date fall for you have been revealed by an expert – as well as the faux pas that risks ruining it all.
Here, Victoria Lacey, a cognitive behavioural therapist forGetCBT, shares top tips to greater dating success.
Don't avoid eye contact
Meeting the other person's gaze can be mega powerful – so don't avoid .
Maintaining a meaningful gaze can create a strong connection and stimulate the release of phenylethylamine (PEA), a chemical associated with .
Share personal stories
“There is a good reason why the question box task features within ,” Victoria tells Flying Eze.
“Self-disclosure, or sharing personal experiences and feelings, can build intimacy and trust.”
During a famous '36 questions' study, participants were paired up and asked to take turns answering questions which ranged from lighthearted to deeply personal.
The study showed that deep conversations foster closeness significantly more than small talk.
Spend time together
This may sound obvious but spending more time together improves your dating chances.
This is because of a phenomenon known as the mere-exposure effect, which suggests that the more time you spend with someone, the more likely they are to develop feelings for you.
Be positive
Save the depressing stories about your day at work and other life troubles.
“Expressing positive emotions and smiling can make you more and approachable,” Victoria says.
“People are drawn to those who make them feel good.”
Show genuine interest
Empathic listening, which involves understanding and validating the other person's perspective, has been shown to build stronger .
“Listening actively and showing genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings can make them feel valued and appreciated,” Victoria explains.
Create a romantic atmosphere
Don't forget that atmosphere is everything too.
Dim lighting and a cosy environment can enhance attraction by making people feel more relaxed and comfortable.
Such settings can also evoke a sense of intimacy and exclusivity, heightening romantic feelings.
Using elements like soft music and candles can significantly enhance the romantic ambience.
Be yourself
Victoria says authenticity is key when dating too.
“Authenticity in relationships is linked to higher levels of trust and emotional intimacy.
“Being genuine and true to yourself can build trust and make the other person feel more connected to you.”
Use body language
Nonverbal cues like leaning in, mirroring their movements and maintaining open can signal your interest and create a sense of closeness.
People are drawn to those who make them feel good
Victoria Lacey
Proxemics, the study of interpersonal distance, shows that closer physical proximity can enhance feelings of intimacy.
“But a word of warning here – there is such a thing as ‘too close’,” Victoria adds.
“For example, there are different zones of interpersonal distance with physical contact to about 18 inches being reserved for close relationships like romantic partners, family and close friends.
“Invading this without the proper context can make people feel uncomfortable or anxious.”
