I’m a struggling single mum – I’m desperate, I’m begging...

I’m a struggling single mum – I’m desperate, I’m begging strangers on the internet to help pay my bills & send me gifts

Published on March 26, 2025 at 08:48 PM

A STRUGGLING single mum has been left with no choice but to appeal to strangers on the internet for help in paying her bills.

Cara, who works as a teacher, currently shares a bedroom with her son, which means she often has to retreat into her wardrobe for a bit of personal space.

A crying woman asks viewers to stop, listen, and share her video. — Cara shared a heartbreaking video on TikTok revealing her struggle

She took to her TikTok account, @cclokes, to share a heartbreaking video.

Cara filmed herself in tears, sitting in her wardrobe with the lights off, as she shared that she has now joined the TikTok creator fund.

The single mum explained that she is going through an extremely difficult time and “doesn’t know what else to do.”;

She also added that she doesn’t have “a lot of time to be in a TikTok shop”; and “try to get things done there to make a supplementary income.”;

Cara also said that she is unable to take on another job because, as a single mum, she simply doesn’t have the spare time.

She shared that after witnessing “so many beautiful things”; and “miracles”; happen on TikTok, she hopes that something similar might happen to her.

Although Cara acknowledged that “everyone’s going through probably very similar things,”; she asked people to watch her video for just one minute and to share her story.

Cara’s video has since gained over 4.3 million views, more than 575,000 likes, and over 87,000 comments.

Many viewers asked if she had a “wishlist”; so that they could give her the items she needed, expressing their desire to “support”; her further.

One person commented: “Yes! So many people ask for help, someone gets them to start a new wishlist, and they’re being fulfilled.

“It’s so great seeing Christmas wishes come true through this app.”;

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Another added: “I wanna bless her so badly and her little sweet baby.”;

A third said: “I love good people!”;

One viewer wrote: “When one mama cries, we all cry. We’re here with you, mama â€“ we see you.

“We see you being so exhausted and your spark dying, but guess what... everything happens for a reason. I’ve watched this three times!”;

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